About Me

Your Pattaya Holiday Guide and the Creator of Pattaya Select, The Gentleman's Travel & Nightlife Guide

Here is a little about me.

I’ve been on 5 epic solo trips to Pattaya (so far with many more planned), filled with more fun, adventure and female companionship than I ever thought possible.  I carefully planned these trips and kept track of critical details (money spent, challenges, issues, tips, strategies and the fun).  This helped maximize my experiences and made planning future trips easier.  I enjoy planning and am good at it (making my living as a professional engineer), and see the value in tracking my life experiences.   

I first heard about Pattaya in about 2008 a year after I left my disastrous marriage.

I was in my early 40's and actively researching dating advice and one guru mentioned Pattaya as a place where a man can go to "heal", feel good again about women and jump start his dating life.

But I was too broke from the marriage, the divorce and minimal vacation time in a former job to consider it.

Eight full years later, in late 2016 I was very close to taking my first Pattaya trip. I was:

• A bit more fit.
• More confident with the ladies.
• Flush with vacation time in my better job.
• Prepared with my passport.
• Comfortable traveling alone.
• In better financial shape.
• Getting my life back together.

It was the perfect time, but I wasn't ready. 

I waited.

And I had to wait longer with multiple setbacks over the next few years making it impossible.

Finally a full 14 years after I first thought of going, I pulled the trigger on my first trip. 

• November 2022
• After Thailand finally opened up from the c... restrictions
• 2 full weeks in Pattaya
• 58 years old

I followed that trip up 3 months later in the winter of 2023. 

I was fully in love with Pattaya, but I thought it was only good in High Season, so I expected to wait until November 2023 (8 months later).

But I met a German in my hotel elevator in March 2023 who said he went every August.  When I questioned the heat and the rain, thinking everything was not available, he laughed and said the heat is bearable, it doesn’t rain all the time and things slow, but it is still awesome.

I took his advice and went again in August of 2023 and followed that up with two more trips in 2024.

Summary of My Trips

A Few More Details About Me

Me getting ready to go out for the evening in Pattaya. This is what I typically wear when I go out in the evening

• I am 61 years old.
• I live in Midwestern USA.
• I'm 6’-0” tall and weigh over 300 pounds but I don’t let my weight slow me down too much.  My belly is large, but my chest, back, neck, arms, and legs are also large from heavy weight training. 
• I love ladies.  Meeting them, getting to know them and enjoying man-woman fun.
• I had built myself up to be a decent ladies man by my late 20's, but just as was staring to get better with women, I got married!
• I was married for 13 years, but left due to her poor treatment of me.
• I dated after my divorce, but can’t say this went that well.  I felt too old, too out of shape and too broke to do well in the US.  I’ve met some nice ladies, but I just don't want to get serious with another lady in the US.

About Me and My Dream Life

I consider Pattaya to be my second home.  I found a great area to stay.  I love having an awesome time when I'm there, planning my trips beforehand and reflecting on the fun afterwards.

As a second home, I like to be there frequently and long enough.

I’m working towards traveling to Pattaya 3 times a year.

This gives me something to look forward to all the time.  It allows me to enjoy female companionships when I'm there and it gives me time between trips to recover, work hard at my job, weight train, enjoy family, friends, relax in my downtime, save up money for my next trip and build my desire to go again.

I work full-time and plan on to keep going another 9 years.  I’m considering retiring or at least wintering in Pattaya once I'm done working like my YouTube expat hero's.  Checking things out for that possibility is part of the fun too.

But for now, I am just going to keep going during my vacation time and enjoy my life!

Reason I Went to Pattaya for the First Time

My life before Pattaya was good.  I was healthy, working my dream job, living in a nice, comfortable apartment, rebuilding my life, driving a nice vehicle, with my teeth fixed and weight training at a high level for my age.

I had great relationships with my 2 precious adult children, my mom (and my dad before he died), my siblings, my old friends and I was meeting new friends.  I traveled quite a bit across the US and enjoyed a nice, peaceful, easy life.

But it wasn’t fantastic for one reason – I had minimal female companionship.  When you lack that, it’s all you think about. 

In Pattaya, all that changes.  Female companionship with beautiful, sweet accommodating Thai ladies is there for all of us.

Part of the Reason I Share This

Some people may not like that I share all this Pattaya information with others, complaining that the Thai people will become too westernized and the prices will rise.

I don’t see it that way for 2 main reasons:

1. I believe in helping men thrive and have a great life.  Why should I and only a few others be the only ones to thoroughly enjoy our lives?
2. If Pattaya isn't visited, their tourist industry will die.  Where would I go? 

The places I’ve loved in my home country have gone out of business due to lack of customers.  It isn’t that too many people go to a place that spoils it.   It is that people don't go and the place dies.

If gentlemen like you go, Pattaya will continue to thrive, for all of us.

It isn't always about me, it's about you too.

Wrap Up to About Me

So go.  Have the best time of your life.

Spend a bit of your money enjoying YOUR life.

Go back as often as you are able.

If enough of us go, Pattaya will be here for the long term.